Why I Should Avoid Quizzes

Every week I get a newsletter from from Boundaries.  Drs. Cloud and Townsend relate real life stories of people who struggle with boundaries and give tips on how to have better ones. 

One morning I had a few spare moments, so I clicked on a link that said, Take The Boundaries Quiz. I confidently clicked the link and started answering the questions.  Since I had nothing to lose, I answered the questions honestly, though I started getting an uneasy feeling while I was doing it.  A feeling like I wasn’t really making the right choices, even though they were honest ones. 

I clicked the submit button and BAM!!!  Score 2.  Two.  Yes, two points. 

What does this mean?

If your total score is: 0 – 7
You may lack important boundaries in your life. We can help!

Based on your answers, you tend to let other people dictate your life and your decision-making process. For example, do you fear the disapproval of others more than your own discomfort? Is “peace at any price” your personal motto? Consider how making everyone else happy may be wearing you out. Worse, you might feel like you don’t have a voice in your own life. We can help!

Huh.  Peace at any price.  Interesting.  You may feel differently, but there are times when I don’t really appreciate being called out on my biggest opportunities for self-improvement.  The worst part?  I’ve read Boundaries. Twice. And still – epic fail. Fortunately, I still have a copy on the shelf. Third time’s the charm, right? 

Despite my poor score, I’m probably not going to lose any sleep over my lack of boundaries.    That doesn’t mean that I won’t try to do better, it just means that I’m not going to beat myself up over my long list of issues.  There’s nothing wrong with being a work in progress, doing the best I can day by day. 

Am I the only one out there who struggles with boundaries?  Take the quiz and let me know- maybe we can start a support group together!

Shades of Green

This week has been different from most – I went out to dinner one night, had a friend over to visit, had the privilege of having a guest blogger write a post – it’s been pretty exciting.  It’s been great and I’ve really enjoyed it, but between work and all this socializing, I am worn out!  It was definitely time to come up with something comforting (yet easy) for dinner.

When I was a kid, I despised sandwiches.  No one should eat baloney, okay?  No one. There’s just something about lunchmeat that gives me the heebie jeebies.  Peanut butter is – well – I like it in lots of things, just not in a sandwich.  In a pinch, I would eat strawberry jam or meatloaf (slathered liberally in ketchup) sandwiches, but the bread got soggy and ew, just ew.  There are not enough chips in the world to be able to choke that down.

It’s only been recently that I’ve been open to the idea of a sandwich.  When I was running errands one day, I happened to be in Arbor Farms Market, and was famished, famished enough to grab a sandwich out of the deli case.  It was filled with all kinds of unusual things, things I had never experienced before in a sandwich, hummus and guacamole, fresh veggies, whole grain bun.  Who knew?  A whole new world opened up for me.

I call this Shades of Green, for obvious reasons.

Shades of Green

It starts with a slice of multigrain bread, toasted and buttered of course, topped with tomato slices, pork belly strips doused in home made barbecue sauce, spinach, cucumber slices, and avocado.  It was incredibly messy and I confess that I ate most of it with a knife and fork.  Not wanting to have a repeat of the missing pork belly, I kept careful watch on Hannah and the meat supply.  She was very interested in everything I was doing and very disappointed when none of it found it’s way into her bowl. 

Maybe tomorrow I will be back to thinking about stuff, stuff other than what I’m having for dinner.  But then again maybe I won’t.  Tomorrow is the Hip Donelson Farmer’s Market so I might still be thinking about food.